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My roommate in the group home's son is dying and I don't know what to say! I asked all the wrong questions and was told if I couldn't say anything helpful to not say anything at all!

I was devastated and of course started crying again. . .

I wanted to know when she would be leaving to be with him (a touchy subject I found out later, because she didn't have a ride) what was causing the liver failure, why was his temperature 107, etc.

I didn't know what to say. Maybe you can help me out.

lovelyrics
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That is a difficult situation for anyone to deal with.

How about saying, "I'm so sorry," and sitting in silence for a bit? Sometimes people can be comforted without saying a word, and sitting with them quietly is helpful.

Giving them a hug if they are up for that might be helpful, too, though with a situation like this it can be overwhelming. I find it is best to ask if a hug would be okay - it can put some people over the edge when they aren't ready to deal with the emotions that physical contact can bring up.

Blessings to everyone involved in the situation.

Cassandra
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Cassandra, thanks for the pointers. . .I am so awkward when it comes to situations like this. . .I try to remember what was comforting to me when my DH died and I remember what meant the most were those little Quincy stories people came up with thereafter because my DH was bigger than life and very flamboyant with a million tall and not-so-tall tales. . .

My roommate has gone to be with her son and we have heard nothing from her yet as far as I know.

Thanks again,

lovelyrics
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