Whatever you do, don't walk away from your friendship with her. One of the power moves that abusers use is to separate the abused spouse from all possible forms of support, including financial, family, friends, and anyone else who might have an inkling of what's really going on. He might be abrasive towards you with the explicit purpose of trying to push you away. Then he can tell his wife "See? I'm the only one who will stick by you."

This is why I'm hanging in there. He does try to separate her from others. We have known each other since 1st grade and I think she knows she can trust me. She has another friend in the area and he has been unsuccessful stopping her from seeing either of us without him. I just hate going out to dinner as a foursome. And I'm sure he feels the same way about me. I simply do not put up with his BS and never hesitate to call him on it. There have been a couple of scenes where he and I have gotten into it. By the look on her face, I actually think she appreciates it.

Chili