Why the long odds, monstergrrl?

Well, first of all, I'm old, in reproductive years - I just turned 39. And DH just had a vasectomy reversal after 11 years (they @#$%ed up the semen analysis, so we've got to go back for another one - it's actually been a while since the operation, but we keep hoping for a different sort of proof - avoiding the issue, I know!). I'm also light on the cervical fluid, and I've noticed a distinct shortening of my periods over the last two years.

Individually, these things are nothing to be alarmed about - and certainly they're nothing next to what some folks are facing. Cumulatively, that's a lot of bricks stacked between us and conception.

The worst part is hoping, time after time, and feeling old and dried up and unfeminine and a complete and total failure for days. Anybody know how to shut off the hope?

-lizmonster