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Subject: women's safety Date: 2/2/2001 11:14 AM
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I just got this and don't know if it's all factually correct or not, but it seems to have useful hints. Feel free to share it with others.

>Hi, girls! I just finished taking the most amazing self-defense class,
>sponsored by Shandwick, and I wanted to share some really valuable info
>with you before it goes out of my head. The guy who taught the class has a
>female friend who was attacked last year in the parking garage at Westport
>Plaza in St. Louis one night after work and taken to an abandoned house and
>raped.
>
>He started a women's group and began teaching these classes soon after.
>This guy is a black belt in karate and trains twice a year with Steven
>Segall. He and the others in this group interviewed a bunch of rapists and
>date rapists in prison on what they look for and here's some interesting
>facts:
>
>The #1 thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most
>likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or other hairstyle
>that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with
>long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.
>
>The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who's
>clothing is easy to remove quickly. The #1 outfit they look for is
>overalls because many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing and on
>overalls the straps can be easily cut.
>
>They also look for women on their cell phone, searching through their purse
>or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can
>be easily overpowered.
>
>The time of day men are most likely to attack and rape a woman is in the
>early morning, between 5 and 8:30 a.m. The number one place women are
>abducted from/attacked at is grocery store parking lots. Number two is
>office parking lots/garages. Number three is public restrooms. The thing
>about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move
>her to a second location where they don't have to worry about getting
>caught.
>
>Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 year sentence
>but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years. If you put up any kind of a fight at
>all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to
>realize that going after you isn't worth it because it will be
>time-consuming. These men said they will not pick on women who have
>umbrellas, or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in
>their hands. Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close
>to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these
>guys you're not worth it. Several defense mechanisms he taught us are:
>
>* If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you
>in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question,
>like what time is it, or make general small talk, I can't believe it is so
>cold out here, we're in for a bad winter. Now you've seen their face and
>could identify them in a lineup, you lose appeal as a target.
>
>* If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and
>yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they'd
>leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to
>fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target. If you carry pepper
>spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him
>wherever he goes), yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a
>deterrent.
>
>* If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you can by
>outsmarting them. If they grab your wrist, pull your wrist back so your
>hand is in waving position (palm facing forward) and twist it toward
>yourself and pull your arm away. It is hard to hold onto wrist bones that
>are moving in that way. They stumble toward you and you stumble back, so
>you can use that momentum to bring the same out and backhand them with your
>knuckles in the forehead, nose or teeth.
>
>* If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker
>either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or in the upper inner
>thigh - HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the
>underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset
>she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands - the guy needed
>stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand
>it; it hurts.
>
>* After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a
>particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's balls (sorry
>to be graphic) it is extremely painful. You might think that you'll piss
>the guy off and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists
>old our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of
>trouble. Start causing trouble, and he's out of there.
>
>* When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and
>bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on
>them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure,
>and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.
>
>Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your
>surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd
>behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel a little
>silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.
>
>Please forward this to any woman you know, it's simple stuff that could
>save her life.

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