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You can always second-guess decisions. Had you known that the surgery would have not been successful, and indeed, would have caused you more problems, OF COURSE, you would have rejected having the surgery.

You thought that your surgery would have provided you a better life - and therefore, would have provided a better life for your children (i.e. the happier the mom is, the better it is for your children).

You cannot predict the future. You cannot beat yourself up for going for this surgery.

You said that people have it worse than you. Yup! There is pretty much ALWAYS someone that has it worse than you. You had elective surgery that you thought would better your life and your health. This is NOT a case where "they didn't bring it on themselves."

Please don't be angry at yourself! You can legitimately be angry at the situation, but you did what you felt was best.

I'm so sorry that you have pain and restrictions, but please don't make it worse on yourself by beating yourself up!

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