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Your mom's hint that her cousin is very interested is a major clue. I would go see her for sure, but take you Mom along. Get them talking and listen.

I would love to do that, and my mom and I have talked about it. Unfortunately, we're geographically quite far from the old homestead, so that's a major week+ vacation, which neither of us can afford time or money-wise at the moment. My mom is actually very interested in the genealogy project, but I think she's afraid it would be "wrong" or something. I think she's also a little hesitant to go back and re-establish ties with the more distant elements of the family, because she's the one that left the area... she got married young and got the heck out of there and moved to the big city. Yeah, it was 50+ years ago, but she's only ever, in my memory, been close with the very immediate family. (I misspoke earlier... the genealogy buff is actually her second or third cousin). My mom's sister is in that area now, but everyone in the family hates her guts. I don't think that there's any animosity against my mom, and she doesn't have any... it's just more that so much time has elapsed, you know?

I think I can get her to do it if we approach it in the right way. Definitely a trip for winter, though. I know the old cemetary where many relatives are buried is an overgrown wreck--my grandfather kept it up when he was alive, but now that he's gone, no one else is doing it. I do not want to encounter a big evil snake while I'm taking pix of headstones!

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