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Subject:  struggling with health issue and regret Date:  9/18/2012  7:40 PM
Author:  zuzu70 Number:  41921 of 42475

I'm having a hard time parenting well lately. In May I chose to have minor surgery on my tear duct to correct an intermittent watery eye. The surgery was more aggressive than I thought it would be and it radically overcorrected the situation, and now I'm left with a dry eye that is uncomfortable on a daily basis. I have eye pain in windy conditions (any wind, be it from outdoors or fan or furnace vent). I wake every morning with an eye so dry it's hard to open. I can't wear my contacts, which I miss terribly. I would give anything to go back to the way it was. But now I will have scar tissue and a notch on my eyelid forever.

I'm so angry at myself for having the surgery done. The worst part of it is that I'm not enjoying my children as much as I had in the past. I am a SAHM and LOVE it, but now all I do is worry about my eye and wish for the sake of my kids that I hadn't had it done. Today I've probably started crying at least 10 times.

I know this is not the end of the world. There are people who have it WAY worse than me. But they didn't bring it on themselves. How can I stop being angry at myself and start being happy with my kids again? Meanwhile I'm wasting time being sad, when my kids are only getting older, and they will only be little for such a short time.


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