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This weekend I spent time with my Grandmother. We were looking through boxes with old photos and papers that she hadn't thrown out. I found a letter from a company (it's still in business so I won't post the name) that I found humorous and interesting. This is long, but well worth the read. It is somewhat related to this board, but I know you all will get a kick out of it. It was in an envelope addressed as "An Unsealed Message To The Missus"

Dear Madam:

Your husband is thinking of building a home. We know he has been prompted by someone who is dear to his heart. We presume the home will be for you.

The purpose of this letter is to say that we hope he has your approval and support. We trust the home he selects to build will be your selection too.

On his behalf we want to say a few words to let you know we understand your problems as well as his in this big undertaking.

We know it means sacrifices on the part of you both. We can assure you that in the long run you will be rewarded abundantly.

As we suggested in the beginning, the home will probably be for you. Your husband will need encouragement every step of the way, just as all men need encouragement when they undertake unusual tasks.

This writer has known all kinds of men, and we can say truthfully we never met any man worthwhile who did not have the help and faith of some woman in whom he had great confidence.

In connection with this home building idea you are thinking about, we hope you and your husband will agree on some design within your means.

We regret to see a couple undertake to build a home larger than they need. So often we have known them to back down completely and build nothing, simply because the wife wanted rooms as large as those in Mrs. So-and-So's house.

After all, men are rather timid when it comes to refusing the wishes of their wives.

We have seen strong men swallow hard and turn pale when their wives wanted more than they could afford.

Nothing so burns a man up inside as having to tell the woman he loves that he can't afford this or that.

And likewise a man is never so elevated as when the woman he is trying hard to please is made happy by his well intended accomplishmnets, even though small.

So help your husband to select a home you can afford. Assure him that if it is not entirely satisfactory it can be sold at a profit and that you can build a second time more in line with your ideals.

And if your husband does undertake the task of getting your home constructed, never let him become discouraged. And never get discouraged yourself when things go wrong.

And above all else, never go into any unpleasant discussions when you and your husband are tired or hungry, and especially when you are hungry.

Always eat before discussions.

We believe if the truth were told more homes have gone up in the hot flames of arguments than have burned by other causes.

Did you ever stop to think of the terrific cost of unnecessary arguments about nothing when couples are tired or hungry?

But why should we go into such matters when you are both thinking of building a home, - the most pleasant and profitable of all efforts?

It is simply this: We have your interest at heart and we want you to be mutually interested in this undertaking. We had rather not furnish you plans for a new home if you both are not going to be happier when it is complete.

These remarks are made because of our faith in women, and what they can accomplish when they set themselves to the task of helping a man in whom they have confidence.

Not only that, we want to say personally to you that the happiest day you will ever know is when you see your husband putting forth his best efforts for you and your children.

We trust you will pardon us for our frankness. We want you and your husband to have a clear understanding in the beginning so that your devotion to each other may grow stronger as you come to the completion of your home.

If we can help you in any way it will give us pleasure.

(giggles at the thought of a company wanting you to buy within your means)
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