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DH is unaware of the extent of all this as I just can't bring myself to mouth the words to him yet.

Assuming that the house was in both your names, how were you planning on getting the HELOC without telling him?

Sorry, but you have an even bigger relationship problem than you do a money problem. The fact that you were willing to pay for your mother's care by taking out cash advances without telling your DH something that obviously wrong. My suggestion is that you need relationship counseling, as well as financial counseling.

AJ
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