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Once again, seemingly off-topic, but really not. Especially if you've followed my saga here lo these many (2, I think) years.

I'm officially divorced, after 10 years of an abusive marriage that nearly killed me, literally. I reacted to this pain and insanity in my life by letting everything slide downhill: my home, my health, my body, my job.

Hanging out here and gradually piecing my home and my work life back together, in a methodical, patient way, was the beginning of my comeback. I started to communicate here before I could face my friends. (Isolation is a hallmark strategy of the abusive spouse.)

Before I got the email from my lawyer about the final decree, I met with a client this morning as part of my long-postponed dream work life. Before that, I weighed myself and found out that I've lost 15 pounds since Sept. My home is a bit disheveled right now - because I'm painting the kitchen floor in baby steps. Tomorrow, I'm having brunch with a dear friend my husband had convinced me to cut off contact with. We've been back in touch for more than a year now.

Sometimes I thought these things would never come together. Other times I thought that even if they did come together, they wouldn't make me happy. Maybe not, but they've cleared the space for it.

Thanks to all of you and to the intangible thing that is The Board.

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