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Having been through my own very difficult split, I think the loss of trusts and respect is an underlying cause every time a relationship ends. DH and I both went through very difficult splits in our previous relationships, and both came to our present relationship willing to trust -- and needing to verify. We talked through everything we could think of, then got a couple of books to remind us of things we hadn't thought of, asked friends to check each other out, and generally went whole-hog on the "does this person have flaws that are going to make us miserable in 20 years" question. The vote on both sides was that we had found the right person.

Financially, that same careful research applied. We started dating in 2005 and shared the cost of traveling to see each other from the beginning, so there were joint spreadsheets very soon after that. We shared our finances down to the last transaction starting in 2007, after we got engaged. I have nearly ten years of his financial transactions. On the regular transactional stuff, he's steadier and more dedicated than I am. On the longer-term investment planning side, I am more able to project into the future what our decisions today may do, so am better there. It makes a good team.

And if something were going to crop up and be a red flag, it would have shown up by now. So this change is a very low risk in my mind, and makes things far easier for us on a day to day basis.

ThyPeace, we are also a good kitchen team. I chop stuff and add flavors, he researches new things to make and applies the heat.
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