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He was an idiot when he was young and it keeps getting worse.

Heh. At least you knew what you were getting into. ;-)

Dad's change in mental state happened in conjunction with a 10 hour surgery. Previous to this he was more than on the ball, retiring at 58 even with a lower paying career and having 6 kids to suck the bank empty. This change in mental state is a common place enough side effect, but sure wasn't disclosed to us or others who have had similar experiences with loved ones. The older you are, the longer the operation, the more you are at risk. My neighbor's husband had a similar post surgical experience, though he was half Dad's age and it lasted only about a week.

This case study sounds like Dad, except his reaction lasted for many months and was certainly not short lived. Particularly chilling is how this guy too felt his recovery was a miracle. Dad felt God had chosen him and now he must go out and do great things. Trying to talk him down just made him paranoid and belligerent. :

Financially, she was the smart one and the only person (he will not listen to his kids) keeping him from ruining them. When she is gone, he's going to go crazy with whatever $ he has and probably lose his house as a result.

Can MIL set up an irrevocable trust to take care of his needs? I suspect that is the sort of thing I will need to look into. Fortunately, time and health are on my side, but it's never too early to start exploring options.

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