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I find it very interesting how KNOWING this makes a difference. I'm not arguing that it can't. I know it can. It works even for me. I just don't understand WHY it can. It isn't logical.

I mean, I don't see how just KNOWING why one overspends/overeats/whatever helps one change those habits. The logical conclusion is that DISCIPLINE will help you change the habits you want to change, whether you know WHY you do those things or not.
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xtn--

this is a good question. Some people simply have to KNOW that they are doing things to be able to change them.

Me--I have to know why because it helps me identify before I am going to do something stupid or worse, just subsitute another stupid thing. For example, knowing that I overeat when I am bored helps put another brake into my eating habits--I can ask myself are you bored or hungry or what? before I eat. If I am bored, then I stop.

It works the same way with more extended processes--for me, it's relationships. I've gotten into a number of bad relationships for the various reasons. After getting to the KNOWING, I can address the root causes, rather than 1. get into THAT particular relationship or 2. find another potentially harmful activity to substitute for the relationship.

In my defense (? sort of), I am a person drawn to abstracts and principles and work best when I understand, conceptualize, absorb, whatever the principle. So for me to just say "stop eating" or "stop getting in bad relationships" doesn't really work, because I don't know *why* I am doing it. Once I address/identify the why, it becomes a lot easier to stop the behavior.

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