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I think if the ring is important to her, it should happen

Yep, this it is. Obviously from my original post you can tell that I'm not hopped up excited about spending thousands on jewelery. It's not that I wouldn't spend a little, but it just seems crazy to me to spend $6, $8, $10K on a rock. I'm frugal after all!

My GF isn't about the price, but there is a balance between price and her expectations of what the ring will be. Some quarter-carat carbon-pocked stone ain't gonna cut it. We're likely talking a 1-carat stone here. I have no idea what that will run.

Fortunately, a connection should yield a price that is a lot closer to wholesale than retail, but we'll see. Personally, I'd rather there was something else to demonstrate commitment and desire to move to marriage than having to shell out thousands for a stone.

It's interesting ... my GF is a responsible money manager, but she grew up in a family that was a bit more traditional -- her and her sister are the first women to not be taken care of financially by their husbands. She works, makes a good salary, saves a great deal, shops for bargains, is careful not to overspend, but will not sacrifice buying the things she wants provided she can afford them.

Thus, as a diamond is technically within my budget, its technically affordable and fits the tradition she expects. I just have a hard time reconciling the expense with my own frugality. The success of our marriage will have little to do with the size of the ring. The level of affection and commitment isn't altered by it either. So why is it necessary? Because DeBeers has conned us into thinking so.

I have an issue with that. But it's not an argument I'm gonna win.


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