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I would go to the Macy's in downtown Brooklyn and stand at the makeup counter while 7 women of color would be chatting away and paying no attention to me at all. I did not exist for them. I would walk away and think "this is Macys"?
Another time I was walking down 6th Avenue to Penn Station and a very large black man stepped on my foot while looking me directly in the eye.
I am a small person and I could see that he was doing this intentionally to hurt me. I was terrified as I had done nothing to provoke this type of behavior.

Lazy and mean people exist in every culture.
It is easier to come across in a big city.

The first time I lived in a small community, I moved to Jackson Hole WY with a friend. We quickly made friends with a couple from the east coast that had gotten there a year earlier.

We commented how much nicer everyone was than on the east coast. The cynic in the group pointed out that part of this was a direct result of living in a small town. If you ignored someone at a store, there is a good chance that if she complains about it that night at a party, someone there will know you. As people become more connected there is internal pressure to be nicer. I am not saying that they are not nicer, they are genuinely being nicer. I am saying that their exists social pressure to be nicer, so that someone who might permit themselves to do mean things in a big city, where the chances of it coming back to them is less than 0.1% will constrain their selves if they think the chances are 5%.

Mean people exist. Not all of it is because you are white.

Finally comparing not getting the attention of a service person or having someone step on your foot seems rather minor when compared to the treatment that black people in NYC get as a result of the Stop and Frisk policies of the last couple years. How many times have you been asked to stand against a wall and be frisked while in Brooklyn?
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