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I'd personally like to see if you could light a fire under his butt by bringing up refinancing the condo in your name only, and splitting assets... How quickly do you think he'd go to a counselor with you if he knew it was THAT SERIOUS???

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This so needed to be repeated. Well said Julie!

Feelings aren't facts, they do change, and we don't have to act on every single one. But that does NOT equate to ignoring warning signs, our gut instinct, or letting go of our standards. A marriage is a partnership!!!! Period. End of story. 2 in 1. He's refusing to participate, so you're going to give him a free ride?! Does this make sense? Yes, I'm being tough on him (and you). Couple's counseling should be mandatory before any couple gets married - not just you. It should be a huge clue about how ready he is for marriage by the fact that he's refusing to do this!

Most importantly, don't regret posting your situation. Admit that the advice you're getting is not what you wanted to hear. Admit that following our advice might be be hard work. You have to make this decision for yourself, but don't regret asking for help because the help you got wasn't what you expected.

Very sorry if this seems harsh. I've been where you are. Running might not be the right solution for you, but taking care of yourself first is ALWAYS the way to go. That means you have to protect yourself and your interests.

Hugs,
Smurfette
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