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IP is correct that expenses should be from your father's assets. If he runs out of assets then you can split the cost of his care. Also, if he has significant dementia his care becomes a medical expense.

A couple questions:
1.) How old is your father?
2.) What stage of dementia?
3.) Who has medical authority?
4.) Will there be any issue with final arrangements?
My husband did have a Medical POA for his mother. It gave him control over final arrangements. It would have been complicated without it because he would have had to obtain all of his siblings signature. One is not conserved but is also incompetent to sign.

My MIL had dementia. It is a difficult illness for the family. She was going through her assets at a significant clip. Another couple of years would have drained her liquid assets and a reverse mortgage would have been a consideration. The family was committed to keeping her in her home and that was done.

The last two months were brutal because one daughter couldn't accept that her mother should have been in hospice. She was convinced that her mother's problems could be fixed when it was apparent to everyone else that their mother's immune system was essentially gone.
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