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Is it normal for guys to be ... hesitant to let the ladies initiate sex? (Not about making decisions during sex, but actually saying.."Let's go!")


From the other side of the relationship, I've run into this.

As a girl I was in a sexually abusive home. This lead to a few issues in my relationship with DBF/DH. I wasn't very likely to initiate sex or certain acts, especially in the early years. Over time, as I grew older and more mature and had more distance from the abuse, I had less problems and I was as likely to initiate it as he was.

Now we have the opposite issue. He has had some health issues for the past 8 years, and as a result, I'm nearly always the one make the invitation. And I get turned down alot.

I think alot of it is physical, but I do know that because his interest level and abilities are a lot less than before, he feels more pressure to perform than he'd like or I intend.

But yes, I do think he prefers to be the one in control most of the time.

Always ;-)
Hunzi
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