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It usually comes up around the Christian holidays. People ask me what I'm doing for Easter, for example, and when I say I'm not Christian, they want to know what I am. When I can't hand them the appropriately labelled post-it note to put on my forehead, they get very confused.

Ah... I think I see the problem. You're too honest, open and trusting. :D (j/k) But yeah, people live by labeling others. Sad, but true. I think it's a survival trait - a shortcut taken during times of information overload.

I rarely tell people I'm not Christian unless I'm prepared to go all the way with it. I get the same thing when someone asks me if I caught some show on TV last night. "I don't watch TV." "<blank stare> What do you do for entertainment?" "Read books on comparative religion and quantum physics." "<head shake> <edge-away>"

Seriously, though, I have enough friends with Christian relatives that I can usually count on a spot at someone's holiday feast (Life Rule #1: never turn down a free meal). So "What are you doing for Easter?" "Dinner at x's house." No one's asked me if I go to church. Yet.

I don't like to lie. Apart from the ethical issues, I can't keep track of everything I say, so I try not to stray from the truth as I see it at a particular moment. But I also don't feel the need to proclaim my chosen path to everyone who asks, so I feel some evasion can be appropriate. Some may say this is not being true to oneself, but I see it more as protective camouflage - is the chameleon being untrue to itself when it changes color to match its surroundings? No, it's still a chameleon, only avoiding potentially hostile situations.

Just my own opinion and experiences :)

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