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<<I told DH just this morning if he wants to continue those two vices then he will have to take the money out of his account (he has a small amount left in a separate checking acct) to pay for his habits himself. I also told him I don't want to hear anymore "slurs" and screaming profanity about my deceased mother on a daily basis. She's been gone almost a year and yet this continues. Horrible, disrespectful, and every other adjective one could think of to describe his behavior.>>

Some of this sounds like the mental illness you mentioned. I certainly wouldn't want to have my life blighted with this kind of behavior unless someone is getting help to deal with it.

<<Someone asked where DH would go if I kick him out or if he leaves on his own. Who knows?? This is a big part of my problem. He has no friends and has alienated his entire family. How can I ask him to just leave with nowhere to go? What kind of person does that make me? So, I continue to just go from day to day hoping and praying that something will change.>>

Not really your problem in the end. Ultimately, you need to take care of yourself. It sounds like you have been doing your best by your husband, but at some point you aren't doing him any good and you are probably harming yourself.

If you wind up moving out of your home, I don't think you owe him anything. If he moves out, I'd be inclined to offer him $500 or so if you can an an inducement for him to move and to give him some kind of cash cushion.

It might be smart to consult with an attorney to decide on how such a breakup could be managed reasonably and prudently.

Seattle Pioneer
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