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My 92 year old father filed a quitclaim deed... My brothers and I did not know...

Yeah, my 90-yr-old father is also very confident of his decisions, which he makes unilaterally and in secret.

Kind of OT:

Not knowing OP's exact situation, but just as a PSA to anyone lurking who has elderly parents: visit often! There's so much info that parents won't volunteer, but that you'll notice if you're there enough and are paying attention.

When I saw my father's bills piling up, I offered to help with the check-writing. Over the years, that segued into my handling all his finances, which involved not only the day-to-day stuff, but also delicately untangling some stupid stuff he'd done. The checkbook is still at his house, and he can (and does) use it to get cash now and then for his poker games and paying the lawn care guy, but he's been happy to turn over the less interesting tasks to me, bit by bit. Similarly, I noticed that he was becoming more and more lackadaisical about taking his pills, and recently got him MedMinder, an electronic pillbox, that texts me when he misses a dose, so I can call him that day and not find out a week later that there's been a problem. (I apply my "visit often" advice to myself by visiting about once every other week. More often as needed, but when I have to visit more, I consider that a problem to be solved.)

Eldercare is like childcare:
- Despite similarities within an age group, each one is an individual, and care should be customized to what s/he personally needs/likes/wants at any given stage.
- Things can change quickly, and it's easier to recognize and respond to what's going on if you're already familiar with the scenario, than if you find yourself jumping in suddenly when there's a crisis.

OK, that's my rant/vent for the day. Off my soapbox now.
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