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Oh my. You guys are so right. Yes, we are sick in love puppy dogs after 4 years (3 living together, 1 1/2 with a mortgage together). But we don't really talk about money. We have to work out where we stand financially NOW.

The thing is, I am an absolute control freak when it comes to money. I control all of our finances in MSMoney, so I do know where almost all of our money goes. He gets an allowance, and I don't have any real spending money needs, other than an occasional pack of smokes (I know! I know!). Anyway, because I am so obsessed with our finances he stays away. We don't really talk about it, he just trusts me to take care of it. I hand him the mortgage bill and say, "Its time to write the check."

He seems fine with this, but apparently I'm not okay. I know he's "onboard" only because he doesn't use his credit card anymore (confisacted) and he really wants to be out of debt. But he leaves it up to me to take care of it. He just says, "Snowball it, don't fight the snowball." He insists he doesn't care if "his" money is used to pay off debt on my CCs, because he sees it as our money. And I believe him, so he isn't the one with the problem at all. It's me. I feel guilty because this past year with me working part time he's basically supported me.

He's on a business trip right now (woah is me), but when he gets home next week I'm going to sit down with him and tell him how I feel.

And the idea about him getting a card in his name to make a balance transfer--brillant! That is so freaking obvious I can't believe I didn't think of it! I'm sure he'll be fine with that. Thanks so much!


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