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Prior to marriage my wife was all over me. She WANTED me. She was great in bed. As soon as we went on the honeymoon, that all stopped. We've been married 1.5 years now, we've had sex 6 times.

I've talked to her about this a few times and she said, "I'm just not in the mood, you need to understand a woman's needs. We don't work like men."

To be honest, I think withholding sex is cruel and unusual punishment. We are both in our mid-30's. I work my butt off for her and treat her with respect. I don't pressure her into sex, again I've only brought this up twice.

I'm posting this because I'm simply starting not to care about her. I'm starting to intentionally avoid her. I would never cheat or divorce her, but I can't help but think deep down inside she just wanted to get married, but she didn't want what came with it, me.

She has financial security now and we have a son. I think that's what she wanted... I could come or go.

I know women avoid sex during pregnancy a lot or even after because they are tired. I accept that. But the fact is, prior to being pregnant she was the same. As soon as we got married, she turned cold.

I'm becoming apathetic towards her. I'm worried about that. I believe love comes from God and we share that together, intimacy is a result of love, and that's the problem, I think she doesn't love me, or if she does, she simply has no interest in sex. Since she was interested in sex just prior to marriage, I think I was played a little bit. She gave me what I wanted to get what she wanted.

Advice is appreciated. We have had sex 1 time in the past year. Ugh.
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