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So why didn't he? Was he feeling too pressured to "get married" that it overcame this judgment he had made about himself?

And what about you? Did you understand that this was a risk with him? And if not --- was it something you could have or should have known and recognized?


I think it was a late realisation on his part - on both our parts, actually - hindsight, as has been said, is 20/20. We had a good marriage, for the most part, and it lasted a while. It could have been a great marriage, if we had put in the work.

When we met, and married, we did it as much with our heads as with our hearts. We made a good couple - his strengths balanced out my weaknesses and vice-versa, we had very similar values, and we loved and respected each other. But sometimes, the things we are willing to compromise on when we are younger, get more difficult as we get older.

Was my divorce a mistake? Not given the situation. But it was a waste. He understood the need to maintain his cars, his motorcycles, his plane, but not the need to maintain his relationships. I, on the other hand, am a people person, am more likely to spend time with people than things. So in a way, the things that most attracted us about the other person, the things that made us extremely complementary, were the things that were our undoing.

orinjade

P.S. And before someone jumps on it, yes, we could more than afford all his toys - our retirements were well funded, and both of us had high paying jobs.
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