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The human population of the world managed without such a concept throughout human history until the past twenty years or so.

That usually resulted in marriages that lasted and parental commitment to supporting children that was commonly limited mostly by death.

The idea of "till death do us part" was commonly no joke.

Liberal social theories have trivialized marriage. And frankly men must be prepared to give up their children and home at pretty much any time with little or no notice if a woman wished to kick him out of his home.

Men must cultivate shallow relationships with their spouse and children if they want to stay out of jail.


SP did you take any history classes?

Let's take the rose-colored glasses off for a second and show what actually happened in the past.

1. Women were PROPERTY. They didn't have the right or the ability to leave a bad marriage. They couldn't own their own businesses, take their possessions with them, etc. So their choices were: live with husband, live with father, or live with relatives. So instead of saying "well they took marriage seriously back then" it should be "marriage was a virtually loveless contract between vastly unequal parties".
2. Women who had children out of wedlock weren't given child support. They lost their jobs (maids, shop girls, etc), sent to seclusion to then give up the baby (if wealthy), or had a dangerous abortion/committed suicide. The guy faced no consequences.
3. Work houses and orphanages. We don't have those any more. Cities used to be littered with them. Kids were raised in poverty and virtual slavery. They ran wild on the streets as criminals. Part of the whole reason we started all these social programs to help the poor was to make the streets safer.

I'm trying to figure out what you mean by "shallow relationships". I don't know of any man who has gone to jail because he doesn't see his kids anymore. Refusing to pay court ordered child support can have consequences, but I've yet to see anyone punished for not being pleasant.

Oh, and "liberal social theories" have STRENGTHENED marriage. Modern theories demand that marriage be about love, between equals, and that each person be treated with respect, not just the man.

Lara Amber
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