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sorry...didn't mean to leave you guys hangin'

It's been a busy few weeks..

I'd say it might be calming down now, but I don't want to jinx myself. :P

Funeral was a whirlwind. I don't know why they were in such a rush. My third brother was really upset and angry that they had it in the middle of the week and he couldn't attend. (self-employed and had commitments that he couldn't break)

My mother put us all through a number of hoops just so she could end up not going to the funeral. That's a sitcom episode in itself, that I wont go into right now. (or maybe it's a melodrama)

We got home on thursday evening and the furnace wasn't working, so spent the next 2 -3 days getting that straightened out. (Turned out the suction tube in the tank became disconnected, and although we had fuel it wasn't sucking anything out. a real PITA problem. (PAIN IN THE A) for those who don't know the acronym.

My second brother came back with us. Spent the entire next week or so staring at his computer watching the stocks go up and down. Then proceeded to go crazy on the last day trying to get things done on his house he owns up here. He called his drug addict gf 3-5 times a day on my dad's cell phone and went over his usage limit, so now dad's cell phone bill is going to be twice what it normally is.

Not to mention the fact that he borrowed money from my mom to send to his gf, and borrowed money from my dad to send to his gf... and my sister paid for his flight back... and gave him money for the hotel in rochester. (Because mom insisted on staying another day, although she didn't even bother to go see my sister in law or my neices or attend the funeral.)

took dad to have another endoscopy done. It was scheduled for 10:30, they finally got him in at like 12::30 ...so we didn't leave the hospital till after 2pm. So yesterday was shot.

Tuesday was nice. My sister picked me up and we went to see a dog I'm considering adopting. She still needs to be fixed and have a vet check up, and they have to check me out. :P (how stupid is that?) After that we went to the local outlet mall and bought a few things. We went to the Reebok store and they were having a sale. buy 1 get 1 50% off, or buy 2 and get 1 free. My sister picked up 2 pairs of sneakers, and I got a free pair. :)

Spent most of the morning looking for a form for day to get and exemption on his taxes that he had filled out and misplaced. Ended up finding a form online and printing out a new one for him to fill out.

then I swept the kitchen floor and the stairs. (which never gets done)
and here I am.

Mom's still whining at me about her Sallie Mae account. Like I can do anything. I put her in touch with the Ombudsman to get her some help, but for some reason she insists I need to be there when she calls.

So she's downstairs righting a novel to read to the ombudsman. I told her just to call and find out what he wants to know first. But..what do I know.

Oh..did I tell you that when the furnace went out, the water filter on the freezer froze and cracked and I had to order a new part to fix it? Just got the part today. I guess that's tomorrows project.

The way I figure it, if I get one thing done a day it's progress. No matter how small it is.

What the future holds I don't know. I really would like to move, but I can't see any feasible way of doing it. I have no money, no income, and a few debts that still need to be paid off. My parents are driving me crazy, and despite dad's protestations, he really needs to be thinking about a place where someone can take care of him. I can't take care of him because he doesn't listen to me. And mother is just out of touch with reality. She wants everyone to fix her problems but refuses to let them do anything. You tell her what she needs to do and she doesn't do it, and then it's your fault for no helping her. She's just nuts...and she's making me nuts.

I was online a few days after I heard about my brother and a thought came into my head: I just lost the only person in my immediate family that I actually liked. The only one who was relatively sane.

I don't know what I'm gonna do now. Just muddle through I guess.

okay, I'm off. I have to write an email to the kennel to find out about my future dog. :)

Lady I
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okay, I'm off. I have to write an email to the kennel to find out about my future dog. :)

Caring for a pet is very expensive. Can you afford a dog? (you don't have to publicly answer - just figure the answer out for yourself)

I remember you posting a lot about financial concerns.

I hope things have improved for you, but I would hate to see dog related expenses adding to your stress.
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I was online a few days after I heard about my brother and a thought came into my head: I just lost the only person in my immediate family that I actually liked. The only one who was relatively sane.

I am so sorry, LadyI.

Ishtar
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You know I am sick and tired of ppl telling me that dogs cost a lot to take care of. I've had dogs and cats for years and I've never had a problem keeping them fed and a warm roof over their heads.

Perhaps you would like me to leave the dog at the kennel or the puppy mill that she was rescued from. You would prefer that she was put down just because...

Love doesn't cost a thing.

Remember that the next time you tell someone that caring for a pet is very expensive.

Lady I.
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In additon -

Babies cost a lot more than pets to take care of, but you don't see people stop having them.


Lady I...

(fed up with Trolls)
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GWQ is not a troll.

She is someone who has rescued pets. She currently has a beagle she has rescued, and last year lost a rescue beagle she had for years.

Love doesn't cost anything, but vet bills can be expensive, and she knows that from experience.

Ishtar
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Love doesn't cost anything, but vet bills can be expensive, and she knows that from experience.

In addition to food and vet bills (which I also know can be VERY expensive), if by some magic you (OP) do have an opportunity to move out from under your parents' roof, you'll find your choice of apartments is limited, and possibly more expensive, if you have a pet, especially a dog, and very especially a large dog or certain breeds.

That said, for some people, at some times of their lives, a dog is not a "want" but a "need:" the only one who gives them unconditional love, the only thing that gets them up in the morning, the only thing that keeps them sane. If you're in that position now (as I certainly would be, in your circumstances), then I applaud your decision to get the dog, and wish you many years of good luck and happiness with him/her.
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Love doesn't cost anything, but vet bills can be expensive, and she knows that from experience.


Yep. Like a $300 surgery to remove a growth from the lower eyelid. It was rubbing against the eye irritating the cornea.

(That was Wednesday and Buddy is healing up all right but he hates the cone and we can't put it on him when he goes in his crate because he PANICS then.)
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Poor Buddy!

Ishtar
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joycets
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Perhaps you would like me to leave the dog at the kennel or the puppy mill that she was rescued from. You would prefer that she was put down just because...

Love doesn't cost a thing.

Remember that the next time you tell someone that caring for a pet is very expensive.

Lady I.
Oh, I understand, I feel both sides of this. We certainly can't afford 4 cats and a dog but certainly don't have any other option at this point; though I did tell my husband I was jealous of the dog.
(What, he'll sit on your lap... no, I wanted to sit on your lap DH).

I understand the NEED for a dog who can understand you better than that family. I had a family issue this week, my ONLY direct relative left, my DEAR sister, called me this wk because an aunt called her (about another aunt's death)and this incited my sister to dredge up every horrible thought about how our dad's funeral went wrong (which of course I never thought it did)because of me.
and how she'll never talk to me again (yeah right).
And yes, Dogs and cats never (or almost never) treat you that way!

so, yeah. I get it.

joycets
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and in continuation of the * need * for a dog or cat, when my grandpa died, Grandma had a cat show up for her to take care of. I was fairly young and didn't really see the whole situation a lot, but I know that stray cat got her through it.

joycets
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Not every dog or cat has to spend time at the vet. We've had animals that have never spent any time at the vet and have done just fine.

This obsession with medical checkups for animals and people are costly and ridiculous.

I don't go to the dr unless I have a reason to go. I don't expect to take my animals unless they have a reason to go either.

yes, they will have their shots etc. (I knew you were gonna ask that)

Lady I
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I got an appointment for them to get shots Monday. Whatever!

joycets
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