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Well, I was 17 dating a man who was forty....something, so there's that. But I sure as heck didn't tell my parents.

I think to me it depends a lot on the individuals involved. I was a very mature 17. I was responsible about BC and it was a fling before college.

I'd be most wary of the power dynamic in the relationship. If he's a "young" 28 and she takes the lead in an equal amount of the give and take, I'd be ok with it.

If he's controlling, trying to isolate her from her friends or family or pushing her into anything before she is ready, making her feel young and stupid or firmly keeping an upper hand in the relationship, I'd be not ok with it. But that would not be because of the age difference, but because that dynamic is more likely with an age difference, if that makes sense?

Sounds based on your description so far that isn't the case, so I think the wait and see approach and keeping communication open is very wise. But I'd be looking into an IUD also.

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